Tuesday, July 21, 2009

Good Grief

I've always loved Charlie Brown. Never did I realize how amazing his legendary quote really is.
Good Grief.
Something so simple yet true beyond our wildest dreams. As I was trying to figure out what I wanted to title my blog I came up with two titles " Good Grief " and " Technicolor in a Black and White World ", the latter inching in ahead of it's competition. I think I stuck with
"TIABAWW" or "TBW" due to it being more general and vast in it's explanation and meaning.
But I'm almost sad I didn't get to use Good Grief as my url.

I think for most of us as human beings, we are constantly being effected by the grief and pain of this world. In the end it is for our benefit as we all know we learn from the tough times much more than the not-so-tough ones. (notice how I didn't say "easy times"... I mean, since when has life EVER been easy?!?!)

Good Grief... I think one can even take the phrase and apply it in a spiritual sense. Christ suffered all the sins and pains of the world, this I truly believe. The grief we create or receive, becomes his. However terrible and insurmountable, these trials and tribulations are for our benefit and good. I am shocked during the moments of deep reflection where I am down and out about the difficulties of life and realize that someone has already been there and done that, and to add, has taken everyone else's burdens and pain along with the almost seemingly impossible struggles I personally deal with. How is it even possible to conceive what that must've been like for the 33 year old son of Mary in the Garden of Gethsemane to have to deal with such a task?
I don't even want to really know. I'd rather just acknowledge that Christ is the Son of God and accept his great atoning sacrifice for I am but a peon in contrast to the mighty spiritual Giant who is my Savior.
My burdens nevertheless seem almost too much to deal with at times. I hope it's not me being ungrateful. I mean I know "He" is with me during these times. But there are moments when I feel like He leaves me to teach me an important lesson in life and to realize how many angels are constantly lifting me up. A friend of mine always calls these moments of desertion and trial being " left in the desert ".

And when I'm alone and feel cast out and forgotten by my maker and a world of black and white seems to enter in my vision and all is doom and gloom, a small voice still seems to whisper to me in those dark places I tend to find myself in many a day and says " this is but a portion...". Good thing it was only a portion... life can truthfully be so damn tough sometimes...I realize how small and unimportant I am in the grand scheme of things. This sense of humility is good for me. It's good for all of us.
9 times out of 10 what ails me more than anything are matters of the heart. Be it my spiritual heart, and the worries of my eternal salvation or most commonly, love •

That being said... in order for me to survive these times of black and white, the thought that this grief I have has been shared/suffered by the only perfect human being who personally knows what I'm dealing with, gives me at the least, a sense that I'm not alone in the slightest way. It can totally suck to not have a soul mate to be with me yet. Until then I have to try to see the "good" in my grief.

So when these trials come, they are what they are...I need to deal. Good Grief!


  1. A FEW WORDS OF (Supposed) WISDOM

    I am not many years ahead of you in life but think I can add a different angle of light to this "Black and white."

    While reading "Good Grief" a couple of things continued to pop into my head. Mind you that I am not a practicing Christian and question his divinity more now than ever.

    The first repeating thought of scripture. Sadly, it has been WAY TOO LONG for me to even quote the book (Inside the Bible). As I recall, the scripture of reference says that you will never be challenged beyond what you CAN handle. Isn't that a refreshing thought? We can survive any test or strife thrown before us.

    Secondly, a well-known poem lodged itself into your words above. I'm sure you will recognize it by title alone, but I am including the entire poem for those that have not been introduced to "Footprints."


    One night a man had a dream. He dreamed he was walking along the beach with the Lord. Across the sky flashed scenes from his life. For each scene, he noticed two sets of footprints in the sand; one belonging to him, and the other to the Lord.

    When the last scene of his life flashed before him, he looked back at the footprints in the sand. He noticed that many times along the path of his life there was only set of footprints. He also noticed that it happened at the very lowest and saddest times in his life.

    This really bothered him and he questioned the Lord about it. "Lord, you said that once I decided to follow you, you'd walk with me all the way. But I have noticed that during the most troublesome times in my life, there is only one set of footprints. I don't understand why when I needed you most you would leave me."

    The Lord replied, "My precious, precious child, I love you and I would never leave you. During your times of trial and suffering, when you saw only one set of footprints, it was then that I carried you."

    May you always live the fortunate and blessed life that is the dream of so many.


  2. Very well said. Its weird that I should come across your blog today - I've been going through what you describe in your blog for the last few days. Funny how things work out. Have a good day!

  3. Everything will work out in the time it's suppose to. God's time is not ours. I've enjoyed reading your blog and wish you happiness and in God's time your true soulmate.

  4. I'm not spiritual in the way that you are, so I really can't comment on that aspect of the blog.

    But I will say that I personally needed some of the hardships in my life to realize just how important life is and how easy it is for me to take my time here for granted. Life will never be easy. In fact, I only see it getting harder, but I hold on to this belief that within all the struggles we deal with, we are rewarded with something great as well. And maybe it's our struggles and pain that allow us to understand and recognize that greatness in a way we couldn't have without that, for lack of a better term since I am tired, rocky journey. . .

    Good Grief would have been a good title, but I think it made a really good thought provoking first blog. :)

    I found it really random how I made this blog today and then saw on facebook you had just made one. So random.

    Anyway, I'm glad you did since I have another blog to follow! :)

  5. This is awesome Benji.

  6. Beautifully written! <3

    Have you ever heard S. Michael Wilcox's "The Fourth Watch" talk cd? There is a reason why God stretches us to our very limits. Great talk cd!

  7. Benji,

    I am reading this fairly late, but I didn't know this blog existed until today. This post touched me. I am currently going through a rough time with school/friendships, and it reminded me about Christ's sacrifice being so much more than we go through. Thank you for writing this. God bless.